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Should We Have Another Child?

Should We Have Another Child?

You and your partner may be on the same page when it comes to having another child, or have completely different ideas on how big a family you want. While many couples know that they will have more than one child, for others it's a more difficult decision. Are you ready to have another child? Take a look at some things to consider before you plan for another baby.

First, how old are you and your partner? While it has become common and a lot safer for women in their late thirties and forties to conceive, it is harder and carries more risk. If you have an older child already, how will it affect them? Similarly, if you have a very young child at home, remember that you will be chasing a toddler while you're nine months pregnant. Some women prefer to have their children close in age, but if it's too close, you might feel stressed out and exhausted during your second or third pregnancy.

Finances play a huge role in committing to another baby. You will be able to use a lot of the clothing, baby furniture and toys again for the second time around, but having a child is very expensive. If you're barely scraping by each month with one child, weigh the pros and cons carefully before you conceive.

If the child you already have sleeps through the night and rarely cries, keep in mind that another child won't be a duplicate of your first born. On the other hand, if you have a child who has a difficult temperament, this doesn't mean that your next child will as well.

Finally, look at the lifestyle you have now. Couples with a strong relationship are better equipped to handle pregnancy and parenting. Do you have a supportive spouse who will help with childcare? It's never a good idea to have a baby to save an ailing marriage, or in the hopes that a spouse will stay.

Your own experiences come into play as well. Maybe you were an only child who felt lonely and longed for a sibling, or a child with eight siblings who felt left out. While it's helpful to look at your own childhood when deciding whether you want to expand your family, remember that every situation is different you are not your parents!

Choosing whether or not to have another baby takes careful consideration. In the end, it's a personal decision that only you and your partner can make.


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